The lost art of conversation
You come in early, you work hard, you leave late, and you start it all over again the next day. Half of of your waking hours are spent in this place, but it doesn’t seem to be paying off. You sit in meetings and try to advocate for yourself, but the conversation never seems to go your way. You’re passed up for promotions, denied new responsibilities, and feel stuck and overwhelmed.
If this is you, let me ask – how’s your relationship with your boss? Do you connect often and is she helping you reach your growth goals? Do you regularly leave meetings feeling, heard and supported, with positive forward momentum?
If you’re struggling in this area, you’re not alone.
We don’t talk anymore…
If you’re like most Americans, you spend four times as much time texting as you do in phone calls. Additionally, if you grew up in the digital age, you might be like these students, struggling to converse effectively in a face-to-face conversation.
My husband recently chaperoned my son’s fifth grade field trip to Washington DC. As they walked through the halls of the US Capitol building on a guided tour, he turned around to find three kids with their heads face down in their phones, watching YouTube videos!
It’s no wonder conversations don’t come easy.
Over my 18-year career, I have seen time and time again that my success and upward mobility at work depended way more on my ability to connect with others than with my technical or institutional knowledge. I believe that knowing how to make connections through conversation is the single-most under-taught skill today for young people entering the workforce.
Signs you are heading for a communication breakdown
The next time you have a meeting with your boss, note if at any point you have one of these thoughts:
- She’s just not getting me!
- I need to defend myself.
- This is so frustrating!
- We’re just going around in circles.
This is a good indication of a breakdown in communication.
However, not all hope is lost. You can learn how to communicate more effectively. Thankfully, you’ve come to the right place to get started! I have developed a free guide that will walk you through how to plan a conversation with your boss. You can access it here.
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